As you plan to leave a toxic loved one, you’re probably looking forward to the moment where you can put the past behind you and forget the relationship ever happened. Difficult as it may be, it’s important to make a note of all the toxic, dangerous, or abusive behaviors that your partner shows so you have evidence should you need to provide it in a legal or official setting.
“Keep a record of any incidents of abuse, manipulation, or threatening behavior,” Tina Fey tells Glam exclusively. “Maintain a journal where you document specific incidents, dates, and any evidence you may have, such as text messages or voicemails.”
Fey points out that there are organizations available “that specialize in assisting survivors of toxic relationships,” so it can be helpful to identify those closest to you as you make your exit plan. You may also want to seek legal advice if you are married to a toxic partner, have financial connections with them in any way (such as sharing a house or lease), or have children with them. Similarly, legal and domestic violence services may be able to help you secure physical protection through intervention orders, crisis payments, or relocation assistance.
